One of the many things I personally admire in SL is the creativity.  How someone can take an idea and bring it to life in a virtual world.  It always amazes me when I see a new design by creators such as Vero Modero or L&H how it depicts or imitates things in our real lives.  As an “old head” in SecondLife I am always fascinated to seek out new and unique creations and many times I am completely surprised.  That is one of the reasons the Lupus Fair is such an important event.

Sometime last year, Soror Shanina said, “for Lupus Month we are going to do this….”  of course it had to be as realistic as SecondLife allowed.  I wanted the bells and whistles.  I wanted something that the residents would enjoy 24/7 and at that same time make sure our cause was not overshadowed.

With much deliberation and time The Lupus Fair was born…. 13 stores, 32 sponsors 4 Greek Organizations – A beach, cafe, shopping area, Greek Row and much more!  Again, I am taken away by the creativity, patience and time it takes to brings such a big idea to reality.  As we embark on our 5th year this fair is our milestone as it has set us on another plateau when you factor in our goals and mission as an organization.  To celebrate and acknowledge Lupus on this scale takes much work.  To do it with so much support from others is phenomenal.  I couldn’t ask for a better group of woman as the ladies of Sigma Upsilon Nu, the sponsors that banded together for this great cause or the designers who went out of their way to create pieces specifically for Lupus Month and lastly the builders of this special SIM Soror Cuddles of Cuddles Cove and Soror Amethyst of Brightfield Virtual.

I welcome everyone to come and enjoy this manifestation brought together by many to bring awareness to ONE CAUSE….LUPUS AWARENESS!

Make sure you SHOP for LUPUS, PARTY FOR A CAUSE and PAY TRIBUTE all at the Lupus Fair during the month of May!

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Posted by on May 3, 2015 in Uncategorized


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Celebrate Women


Women’s History Month had its origins as a national celebration in 1981 when Congress passed Pub. L. 97-28 which authorized and requested the President to proclaim the week beginning March 7, 1982 as “Women’s History Week.” Throughout the next five years, Congress continued to pass joint resolutions designating a week in March as “Women’s History Week.” In 1987 after being petitioned by the National Women’s History Project, Congress passed Pub. L. 100-9 which designated the month of March 1987 as “Women’s History Month.” Between 1988 and 1994, Congress passed additional resolutions requesting and authorizing the President to proclaim March of each year as Women’s History Month. Since 1995, Presidents Clinton, Bush and Obama have issued a series of annual proclamations designating the month of March as “Women’s History Month.”


What does this mean to me? I look back on how women like my grandmother held families together, mine, through Sunday dinners. I look at how many have fought endlessly for the right to simple be treated as human beings. I look at our women, who did anything and everything to make ends meet for their family; who took the abuse of others just to survive. How black woman especially was not only used to breed children to work the fields but also used as wet nurses to children not their own.

Shamefully I look at how we as woman degrade each other for numerous reasons, none by the way being justified. I listen to the names we call each other out of jealously how we belittle ourselves for the sake of uplifting another’s ego. I watch how instead of uplifting or encouraging our young women to nature that divine seed that is individually placed within them, we publicly disgrace them, call them out of their names, and penalize them for someone else’s actions. We stand by and watch, support and applaud those that make it their business to shame and dishonor women without reminding them that they themselves were cherished and cultivated by a woman.


It is a historic fact that we as women have always fought for a cause that ultimately was for the betterment of all women – the right to vote, the right of choice, the right to fight. Continuously we have been put in a position where it is needed to prove that we as woman are capable of being just as valuable as men. But within our own, the elite of human beings, this grand sisterhood – the ones that bore the doctors, the creators; the one that have nurtured our past, current and future leaders, we show resentfulness and disdain.

Women’s History Month for me reaffirms that need to look at our past and celebrate those that have taken down barriers proving that we are more than the limits placed on us. We are intelligent, fostering, and survivors – that uplifts other woman so that they are able to make their own history.

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Posted by on March 18, 2014 in My Passion


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Famous Black Sorority Members – Angela Bassett

Famous Black Sorority Members – Angela Bassett.

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Posted by on February 2, 2014 in Uncategorized




I was reading my “Faith in the Valley” and came across something that I wish to share. There is a song by Darryl Coley that goes, “He is preparing me for things I cannot handle now,” That is exactly what life’s test and lessons are about – preparation. Once we understand this we can dispense with the notion that something is wrong with us or that we have done something wrong. Life is not out to prove you wrong. Life and the experiences made each of us. Just as we are divinely made, we must also be divinely prepared.

Think back to those times when the hurt was so bad, when you’ve lost someone that you thought you could never live without or the situation was so grave you thought you would never survive. Now look what you’ve lived through and accomplished – the hurt has passed, that relationship or loss may be painful but is now scattered memories, the situation was overcome. I remember myself that I knew everything that I needed to know – here now I know differently, my mind has changed, and I’ve grown much wiser.

As we move into a brand new year, let us remember that no matter what is going on in your life today, it is only preparation. People come and go, situations rise and fall – it’s all preparation for better things. STRETCH, REACH, GROW into your GREATNESS. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion and even pain, we could not appreciate the GOODNESS or the BLESSINGS when it arrives. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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During the month of October we celebrate the woman who have survived, become a statistic of or is suffering through breast cancer.  It’s frightening as a woman to even think that in my life time I may be one of those survivors or victim of breast cancer.  It’s a real fear for me. 

It is another fear that in every 9 seconds in the United States a woman is assaulted or beaten.  It is a fact that around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime – most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.  Did you know domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined?  Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually. What is even more frightening is that nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.

We as woman need to be aware and concerned that DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is not only on the rise, it is EPIDEMIC.  With all that is known today about domestic violence and the effect and cruelty of this behavior, why is this behavior on the rise in what is supposed to be a civilized culture?

Every day in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends and Ninety-two percent of women surveyed listed reducing domestic violence and sexual assault as their top concern.

Domestic violence not only disrupts the lives of a battered woman, but traumatically affects the family as a whole – and the trauma is passed down as a way of life.  Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs. Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence were twice as likely to abuse their own wives as sons of nonviolent parents; around the globe many abusers were victims of abuse as children. The abuse they inflict in turn as a result can be sexual, physical or emotional.

I can spew data and facts regarding the effects of Domestic Violence and the range of damage but none of it will mean anything if we sit and do nothing to bring awareness to the malice that families are subject to daily.  WE ARE OUR SISTERS KEEPER.  It is not enough to say, “Her problems are not my business”. Being silent is the soundless approval allowing the violence to continue.  We need to stand together for those suffering and make those accountable for their actions.  WE ARE OUR SISTERS KEEPER.  


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Be aware and armed because it is our daughters, our sisters, our mothers who are being victimized every day. Recognize the signs and get help or help someone.  You may be in a volatile relationship if you are with someone who:

  •      Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
  •      Prevents you from going to work or school
  •      Stops you from seeing family members or friends
  •      Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear
  •      Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
  •      Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
  •      Threatens you with violence or a weapon
  •      Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
  •      Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
  •      Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it
  •      Portrays the violence as mutual and consensual

Unmask the truth about Domestic Violence – and not just in the month of October.

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Posted by on October 3, 2013 in My Passion


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Why Lupus…?


About 4 years ago I met this woman in SL.  At the time of our introduction I knew her as Wise Woman Deeva Allen.  She was the current mentor of the SL Sorority that I was pledging.  One thing that was evident about Wise Woman Deeva was that she was stern but fair; her personality was always warm, welcoming and genuine. Her presence set the tone of the environment and although she was charming and spoke with an elegant English tongue you knew she meant business ~ especially when her English accent transformed into her native West Indies brogue.


A few months passed and Wise Woman Deeva became Mentor Deeva. I have to say she grew on me.  Like a true mentor she observed, we talked more argued less and grew to understand each other ~ then Mentor Deeva become my friend.  Over the years her advice or lack of became something that I treasured and valued.  We would spend hours talking and laughing ~ you see, at this point Deeva, whom at this point in our virtue lives became my “Sis”.

For some people when you form a “likeness” with another your thoughts and aspirations tend to intertwined – distance isn’t an obstacle as long as respect and understanding was involved.  I believe this is one of the reasons why she was vital to the creations of Sigma Upsilon Nu, SL Sorority ~ to the founders she was more than a mentor ~ Deeva was more of an inspiration.  She allowed us to make our path and she guided that path to one that was best for all not just the founders and then she held firm to her vow as a mentor.  During the end of this stage in our relationship, my “sis” then became my Soror.

Throughout my 4 years of being blessed with this friendship she never complained of the swollen fingers, the real reason why she hated to type – we thought she just loved to hear her voice.  My Soror was up 3 AM in UK just to attend the crossing of a new soror, a party or a meeting and never complaining of the fatigue that she was accustomed.  I never knew that daily she took at least 20 pills per day hoping that this regiment would ease some of her everyday symptoms.  You see, my dearest and trusted friend has lupus – to this day she suffers from episodes of sickness cause by Lupus more frequently some more painful and more draining than others.

Thus as some would close their eyes and pick a name out of a hat their chosen “charity for the month” appears magically, WE celebrate, we educate and we are aware of Lupus every day, every moment, every second of our lives because our Soror, our Mentor, our dearest and trusted friend hurts from Lupus.

As we continue with the month of May during Lupus Awareness please understand that someone dear to your heart may be suffering in silence and simply understanding just a bit of what they are going through can help.  BE AWARE, BE EDUCATED, BE SUPPORTIVE.


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Posted by on May 16, 2013 in My Passion


2013 Founders Weekend ~ Award Ceremony

Acknowledgement is one of the privileges we as Lady Founders use to show our deepest appreciation for the work and time our sorors put into our Sorority.  It is not enough to wear the tag; each of us from the start understood that this organization is an active sorority with principles and a philosophy, which is centered on sisterhood, love and respect for all women – that is embedded in our standards and the makeup of our organization.

As we continue to grow our sorority, the one thing that is constant is our ability to serve in excellence and in unity in Secondlife and in our real life.  While all of our sorors are worthy of all accolades presented by the founders, our task is to pick one soror to receive the following:

The Baby Panther presented to the newest Soror that showed herself to be motivated from the initial start as an interest and stood out during her journey to become a soror. ~ 2013 Recipient Soror Tae Carter


Lady Orchid Award is presented to the Soror that has shown herself to be refined and distinguished as the Orchid that symbolizes virtue, but most of all whose heart encompasses her sorors ~ Recipient Soror Ngozi Nyoki


Synergy Award, the highest award presented to a soror is the presented to the soror who has over all that is given, serves the organization, her sorors and community based on the Code of Ethics, the Motto, and the belief of sisterhood that Sigma Upsilon Nu, SL Sorority promises to live by ~ 2013 Recipient Soror Shanina Chenaux


Ride or Die Award is presented to the Soror that has proven to stand up and behind her fellow sorors, and Sigma Upsilon Nu, SL Sorority through virtuous and unscrupulous times ~ 2013 Recipient Soror LCuddles228 Gans


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Posted by on April 10, 2013 in My Passion


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